Reading
is not, in my opinion, a luxury, but a necessity. When we are young,
it is our gateway to everything we are about to learn during our school
days. As we reach our teens, it often becomes an escape from the
schedules and demands. Then we ‘grow up’
and time takes over, life becomes so busy and reading slides down the to-do
list faster than that first glass of Chardonnay on a Friday night.
For
many people, this isn’t the case, and
reading is still a huge part of their lives.
I am one of these people. Not
having a book in my hand is unthinkable.
But a few years ago I couldn’t find any comfort in reading. Stress and anxiety had its hold over me, and I couldn’t sit still long enough to
focus on the words.
Many
of my clients, who suffered from
depression, told me how impossible it was for them to read. They couldn’t concentrate on the written word. They would get jittery if sitting still. Trying to concentrate for a period of time, on anything at all was exhausting. Fortunately, with the help of their GP, many
of them have been able to control their symptoms and return to reading for
pleasure.
Walking
away from a physically and emotionally abusive marriage left me with a host of
health issues and I spent many years on the road to recovery. It was a long journey, but I knew I had the
strength to see it through. I was the
sole carer of three young children, and
they needed me.
Reading
had always been a comfort to me - and an escape. My passion for fantasy and science fiction
was never more present than when I was trying to forget my pain. But when I needed to heal it was another genre that I turned to – Mind, Body and Spirit.
There
are thousands of self-help books out there, on numerous topics. When I needed guidance,
I would let my hand trail across the shelves and pick the book that pulled at
me. Without fail, I would choose the perfect title for how I was feeling at
that moment.
The
books listed below are some of the titles that helped me to shape my new life,
change my thought patterns and grow in strength. I have read each of them over and over,
whenever I needed a boost or some motivation.
I recommend them to everyone I meet,
and I am honoured to be able to write for this
genre myself. Adding my lessons
and hopefully helping others just as I was
helped. The list is in no particular order:
Feel the Fear and
do it Anyway by Susan Jeffers
Some
self-help books are full of long words and complicated terms; this isn’t one of them.
Susan has a talent for telling it how it is in a very level-headed
manner. This book looks at why we feel
the way we do and how to use certain tools to cope with these feelings. My copy is
littered with notes I’ve written
in the margin. Insights and quotes that
Susan shares throughout are displayed on my noticeboard and in my diary. When you suffer from anxiety, the smallest
thing can be overwhelming. Susan
understands this and includes simple exercises to help us cope with our fears, however big or small.
How
To Do Everything And Be Happy by Peter Jones
A
book for ordinary people, with ordinary lives.
When I read anything by Peter, I
feel like I’m chatting with an old friend.
He has an incredible talent for making you feel as if you can do
anything – even be happy! The easy
exercises in this book are simple to adopt and can how a profound impact on your
life. Peter recommends giving yourself a ‘Boxing Day’, one day when you get
to do anything you want – but there are rules. The beauty of the idea is to give yourself permission
to have some ‘me-time’. I call my day a ‘Re-Boot Day’ because this is how I feel
after. Just as your computer is quicker
and more productive after a re-boot, this is how I feel when I’ve done Peter’s
Boxing Day. I recommend this book the
most, to my friends and clients, as I
know how much it helped me. You can read my interview with Peter Jones here.
How
To Be A Money Magnet by Marie-Claire Carlyle
Marie-Claire
wrote this book after the success of her Money Magnet workshops. It is another easy to follow book that uses
seven steps in overcoming your mindset
over finances. I was hopeless with money
and could spend it before I’d earned it, so the title was what attracted me
initially. Suddenly finding myself as a
single mum to three children and having a much smaller family income meant that
I needed to learn how to manage my money.
It’s not a budgeting book, or a how-to make millions. Marie-Claire guides you to re-think how you
feel about money and unblock any limiting beliefs. By mid-way through this book I had adopted
several of the recommendations and noticed an increase in my income
stream. I’ve bought this book about four
times because I keep lending it out to people and never getting it back – hmm another
lesson I need to learn.
Ice and a Slice by Della Galton
This
book isn’t self-help. You can’t find it
in the MBS section of any bookshop, but I’ve
included it here because it had such a huge impact on my life. Ice and a Slice is a fiction book, a
beautiful story about SJ who likes to have a drink. She overindulges once too often, and the story evolves as her life falls
apart. She has to reclaim who she once was without the crutch of
alcohol. As I read this book, I honestly
believed that Della could see into my mind.
I knew that I used alcohol to mask my insecurities,
and I knew deep down that it wasn’t good for me. After reading this book I gave up drinking –
I’ve been tee-total for sixteen months now.
The Secret by Rhonda Byrne
For
me, this wasn’t the easiest book to read,
probably because it jumps from author to author, but it was powerful nonetheless. I had to re-read most of the chapters to ‘get
it’, but it taught me a great deal about how my thoughts shaped who I was. It also introduced me to Mike Dooley and Bob
Proctor whose quotes still inspire me today – especially, ‘Thoughts Become
Things, Pick Good Ones.’ The Secret
still tops the charts in MBS, and I can
understand why.
Clear Your Clutter
with Feng Shui
by Karen Kingston
De-cluttering
has to be one of my favourite things to do,
and it’s all because of Karen. I have
always been a bit of a hoarder, clinging to keepsakes because of a misplaced
loyalty. It was when I read this book that I understood how much harm I was
doing to my life by holding onto the past.
The masses of ‘stuff’ that occupied my home where stagnating my energy, and this was contributing to my
feelings of being overwhelmed and out of control. Once I started working through the exercises
Karen suggests, I began to notice huge shifts in how I felt, what I was doing
and what I was attracting into my life.
How
I Changed My Life in a Year by Shelley Wilson (me!)
Yes,
I’ve snuck my book in at the end! I didn’t do this as a sales pitch but as an
honest account of what it meant to produce this book. Starting my blog and embarking on the twelve
challenges I set myself, was only possible because of the strength and
motivation I took from each of the books I’ve listed. There have been many more self-help books
that taught me valuable lessons, but for fear of boring my readers I’ve kept
the list short – I will add other titles in another post. I had to re-build my life and start
over. This
was the hardest thing I’ve ever done, but it made me who I am today. Writing this book was my way of showing
others how anything is possible if you
believe in yourself.
I would love to
hear about a book that motivated you, or one that changed your life. Please share your thoughts in the comments
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I haven't read any of these, though I've heard of some of them. I would add 'In Praise of Slow' by Carl Honore.
ReplyDeleteThey are all worth reading Julia. I've heard of Carl Honore, and I have to say that 'slowing down' is a lesson I am learning at the moment. I've been on fast forward for a few too many years. I think his book sounds perfect for me! :-)
DeleteHi Shelley, I can feel my fingers itching towards the Amazon buy button now, I've read your book of course and it was a wonderful "kick up the pants" in all sorts of parts of my life, it had me diving off doing things like actually delivering all those items for the charity shop rather than passing them in the hallway again.
ReplyDeleteThanks Rosie, haha I should have put a warning sticker on my post - MAY CAUSE SPENDING! Sorry. I hope you are keeping up with the good habits ;-)
Delete'Feel the Fear and do it anyway' was the very first self-help book I read and I was very young at the time. I need these books in my life. I love 'The Secret'. But I think I really need 'Clear your Clutter with Feng Shui'. Yes....definitely! I buy novels on kindle but self-help books I like to buy hardcopy. I write in them you see....mad stuff! That's why I can never pass them on to others!
ReplyDeleteHaha I do exactly the same Gloria! Notes in the margin is so true with self-help books! I'm re-reading Clear The Clutter and getting very excited to get cracking - it's amazing how much 'stuff' sticks.
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