Saturday, 13 September 2014

15 Ways to Boost Your Well-Being

Writers' block is something I have never had to worry about.  I suffer from the opposite problem of having too much to write and no structure in place to streamline those thoughts.

However, as I was sitting at my laptop ready to type this week's post, I stopped.  I experienced that moment of emptiness with my fingertips hovering over the keys.  Not because I didn't know what to say, but for once in my life, I didn't know quite how to say it.

Allow me to explain.  This week has been a blessing for me, I love my holistic job and facilitated a successful workshop on creating vision boards.  I started my meditation classes up again for the new term and I completed the first edit on my debut fiction novel.  Just this morning I received a beautiful email telling me I had been nominated for another Blogger award (that's two in as many weeks) and a second email asking if I would like to be interviewed for a very prominent blog.  Fantastic!  Last week I checked the sales of my non-fiction book (How I Changed My Life in a Year - and found that I was still in the top 50 of Amazon best sellers for self-help and memoir.  Feedback continues to be positive and reviews have been incredible.

This is all very wonderful and gives me plenty to write about, but I've also spoken to a number of my clients and friends over the past few weeks who aren't having such a great time.  They are feeling dejected, anxious and find themselves wishing the next few months away so they can put 2014 behind them.

It stopped me in my tracks.  I was hearing what they were saying but for how long had they tried to say it?  Was I so wrapped up in myself that I'd missed their cry for help?  I've since dug a little deeper and now realise that they have coped alone and only now are feeling so desperate that they are able to voice their concerns.  I understood this.  I spent many years living my 'closed book' life before finding the strength to speak out.

Our family experienced three consecutive years filled with loss and grief and it was very hard to focus on the positives that were going on around us.  This made me think about my clients and friends who were also struggling to see the happiness in their lives.  Their well-being was suffering as a result of their negative experiences.

I realised many years ago that it's okay to have an off day, a bad week or the month from hell.  It can hit you in a single year and make you wish the ground would swallow you whole, but it does come to an end.  What I learned from the conversations with my clients is how important it is to balance the good and the bad so that we are not overwhelmed by our problems.

I thought about how I could help to lift their spirits and show them that the good fortune I was experiencing was also within their reach.  As Bob Proctor explains quite perfectly, 'thoughts become things, pick the good ones.'  We are able to pull positive things to us when we change our thoughts, by dwelling on the negatives we are simply asking for more of the same.

I put together a list that would hopefully change their thought pattern from negative to positive and give them the boost they needed - 15 Ways to Boost Your Well-Being.  I hope everyone finds some inspiration within this list and that it resonates with whatever is going on in your life.

  1. What other people think about your situation, or you as a person, is their opinion and none of your business. 
  2. Stop over analysing. 
  3. Celebrate your own uniqueness and individuality.
  4. Make peace with your past. 
  5. Don't compare yourself/lifestyle to others.  You don't know what they are going through.
  6. Trust that you are capable of achieving everything you want.
  7. Believe in yourself.  Success starts on the inside and shows on the outside.  Dream It, Live It and Become It.
  8. Live for the moment.  Meditation teaches you to be in the now.  'Now' is all you have so enjoy it and be happy.
  9. Don't try to be something/someone that doesn't fit.  You shouldn't be scared to be your true self.
  10. Remember how amazing you are.
  11. 'Only with your consent can someone make you feel inferior' Eleanor Roosevelt.
  12. Time heals almost everything, allow yourself that time.
  13. You can do anything you put your mind to.
  14. Being positive is a choice - so choose it.
  15. Surrender your worries, doubts and fears and know that you deserve the best life

I would love to hear your thoughts.  Going through a tough time can feel like you are coping with everything alone, but that isn't the case.  There are family members, friends, therapists and charities available to help.  Have the courage to ask for help if you need it - you may be surprised by the response you receive.  It's human nature to want to help others, so help and be helped.

Sunday, 7 September 2014

One Lovely Blog Award

Collecting 'things' is a favourite hobby of mine.  It's an odd phrase but I feel it bunches all the 'nic nacs', 'bric-a-brac' and 'random stuff' I have in my house under the one umbrella.  'Things', it rolls off the tongue nicely doesn't it.  Maybe I was a magpie in a former life, attracted to lustrous objects and glittering paraphernalia.

When I was nominated for the One Lovely Blog Award by Julia, I believed I had peaked in the collector status.  A shiny blog award is, in my humble opinion, as huge as an Oscar!  Okay, I may have a slight flair for the dramatics, but knowing that someone other than my mum is reading my blog is a big deal.

So Julia, I thank you for taking the time to nominate me, please do take a look at Julia's blog and at her other blogger recommendations -

Sunday, 24 August 2014

What Would You Tell Your 16 Year Old Self?

It's been a while since I blogged, and as I type this post I feel like a new student returning to school after the summer break.

I was in a fortunate position to take four weeks off work to enjoy the summer holiday with my kids.  My time off also included a step away from blogging.  This meant I developed a nervous twitch on what would have been blog post day, but on the whole I was able to take my own advice, and switch off, unwind and have an incredible summer.

As with any family holiday we document every tourist hotspot, sunset and sunrise, and every international #selfie on our phone, tablet or with a camera - or is this just me?

16 Year Old Shelley
It was as I uploaded the numerous photographs from my iPhone to my laptop that I spotted an old picture in a frame on my wall.

This was taken on my 16th birthday.  The same day I sat my GCSE maths exam - the same day I failed my GCSE maths exam!

My eldest son collected his own GCSE exam results last week, along with many other 16 year olds across the UK.  He did incredibly well - much better than his mother!

Thursday, 31 July 2014

Who Said That?

From the old wives tales that our grandparents taught us, to a business mantra that is tossed around the boardroom, we all know one or two quotes that have inspired us.

For me, a motivational quote can be used to boost my own self esteem, or passed on to one of my holistic clients.  Enhancing well-being and inspiring someone to succeed can be as simple as passing on a brief sentence.

We all know that words can harm or heal, I choose to live my life on the healing path and as such I pass on the inspirational quotes and mantras that I've collected over the years.

Thursday, 17 July 2014

How To Live a Life Full of Motivation

Life can swerve in a different direction at any point, sometimes you are ready for it but more often than not it flings you unceremoniously from a moving vehicle.

This is what happened to me, but as I look back I see that it wasn't a sudden swerve, more of a winding road that I didn't realise I could get off.

Getting back on track took a huge amount of patience and dedication but with the support of my family I did it. 
For seven years I was trapped in an emotionally and physically abusive marriage.  I was overweight, exhausted and miserable.  In 2004 I found the courage to leave, packing my two, three and five year old children in the car and driving away.

Thursday, 10 July 2014

Could You Do The Water Challenge?

During a normal working day I say 'drink more water' a hundred times over.  As a reflexologist it is plainly evident when a client is suffering from dehydration, however, many people are still unaware of just how beneficial drinking water can be.

I remember reading an article in the Daily Mail back in 2013.  Sarah Smith, a 42 year old mother, had taken on a challenge to increase her water intake for four weeks and written up her findings.  The article was eye-opening - you can read it here.

The before and after photographs were what initially attracted me to the article, I had to check she hadn't been photo shopped! I was intrigued to discover how she had succeeded. 

Saturday, 5 July 2014

5 Days of Mayhem

Have you ever had one of those weeks where all your best laid plans get thrown out of the window due to something out of your control?  Welcome to my week!

I am an uber organised individual, I live by the mantra 'if it isn't in the diary, it doesn't happen'.  Then one week comes along that throws life into a spin that would put any tornado to shame, however, if I've learnt anything from this week, it's to go with the flow!

Day 1

Great start to the week as I took part in twitter's #indiebooksbeseen promotion.  All indie authors were given the opportunity to post a photograph of themselves holding a poster of their book/s (or a copy of their book). 

The promotion was very well attended and retweets were phenomenal.  It was so lovely to see such a great variety of indie authors taking part and it was a perfect opportunity to connect with such a supportive community.