It all began as a simple list of New Year Resolutions - what came next changed my life.
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This blog is all about living life to the full and feeling inspired to follow your dreams.
is not, in my opinion, a luxury, but a necessity.When we are young,
it is our gateway to everything we are about to learn during our school
days.As we reach our teens, it often becomes an escape from the
schedules and demands.Then we ‘grow up’
and time takes over, life becomes so busy and reading slides down the to-do
list faster than that first glass of Chardonnay on a Friday night.
many people, this isn’t the case, and
reading is still a huge part of their lives.I am one of these people.Not
having a book in my hand is unthinkable.But a few years ago I couldn’t find any comfort in reading.Stress and anxiety had its hold over me, and I couldn’t sit still long enough to
focus on the words.
of my clients, who suffered from
depression, told me how impossible it was for them to read.They couldn’t concentrate on the written word.They would get jittery if sitting still.Trying to concentrate for a period of time, on anything at all was exhausting.Fortunately, with the help of their GP, many
of them have been able to control their symptoms and return to reading for
away from a physically and emotionally abusive marriage left me with a host of
health issues and I spent many years on the road to recovery.It was a long journey, but I knew I had the
strength to see it through.I was the
sole carer of three young children, and
they needed me.
had always been a comfort to me - and an escape.My passion for fantasy and science fiction
was never more present than when I was trying to forget my pain.But when I needed to heal it was another genre that I turned to – Mind, Body and Spirit.
are thousands of self-help books out there, on numerous topics.When I needed guidance,
I would let my hand trail across the shelves and pick the book that pulled at
me.Without fail, I would choose the perfect title for how I was feeling at
books listed below are some of the titles that helped me to shape my new life,
change my thought patterns and grow in strength.I have read each of them over and over,
whenever I needed a boost or some motivation.I recommend them to everyone I meet,
and I am honoured to be able to write for this
genre myself.Adding my lessons
and hopefully helping others just as I was
helped. The list is in no particular order:
Feel the Fear and
do it Anywayby Susan Jeffers
self-help books are full of long words and complicated terms; this isn’t one of them.Susan has a talent for telling it how it is in a very level-headed
manner.This book looks at why we feel
the way we do and how to use certain tools to cope with these feelings.My copy is
litteredwith notes I’ve written
in the margin.Insights and quotes that
Susan shares throughout are displayed on my noticeboard and in my diary.When you suffer from anxiety, the smallest
thing can be overwhelming.Susan
understands this and includes simple exercises to help us cope with our fears, however big or small.
To Do Everything And Be Happy by Peter Jones
book for ordinary people, with ordinary lives.When I read anything by Peter, I
feel like I’m chatting with an old friend.He has an incredible talent for making you feel as if you can do
anything – even be happy!The easy
exercises in this book are simple to adopt and can how a profound impact on your
life.Peter recommends giving yourself a ‘Boxing Day’, one day when you get
to do anything you want – but there are rules.The beauty of the idea is to give yourself permission
to have some ‘me-time’.I call my day a ‘Re-Boot Day’ because this is how I feel
after.Just as your computer is quicker
and more productive after a re-boot, this is how I feel when I’ve done Peter’s
Boxing Day.I recommend this book the
most, to my friends and clients, as I
know how much it helped me. You can read my interview with Peter Jones here.
To Be A Money Magnet by Marie-Claire Carlyle
wrote this book after the success of her Money Magnet workshops.It is another easy to follow book that uses
seven steps in overcoming your mindset
over finances.I was hopeless with money
and could spend it before I’d earned it, so the title was what attracted me
initially.Suddenly finding myself as a
single mum to three children and having a much smaller family income meant that
I needed to learn how to manage my money.It’s not a budgeting book, or a how-to make millions.Marie-Claire guides you to re-think how you
feel about money and unblock any limiting beliefs.By mid-way through this book I had adopted
several of the recommendations and noticed an increase in my income
stream.I’ve bought this book about four
times because I keep lending it out to people and never getting it back – hmm another
lesson I need to learn.
Ice and a Slice by Della Galton
book isn’t self-help.You can’t find it
in the MBS section of any bookshop, but I’ve
included it here because it had such a huge impact on my life.Ice and a Slice is a fiction book, a
beautiful story about SJ who likes to have a drink.She overindulges once too often, and the story evolves as her life falls
apart.She has to reclaim who she once was without the crutch of
alcohol.As I read this book, I honestly
believed that Della could see into my mind.I knew that I used alcohol to mask my insecurities,
and I knew deep down that it wasn’t good for me.After reading this book I gave up drinking –
I’ve been tee-total for sixteen months now.
The Secret by Rhonda Byrne
me, this wasn’t the easiest book to read,
probably because it jumps from author to author, but it was powerful nonetheless.I had to re-read most of the chapters to ‘get
it’, but it taught me a great deal about how my thoughts shaped who I was.It also introduced me to Mike Dooley and Bob
Proctor whose quotes still inspire me today – especially, ‘Thoughts Become
Things, Pick Good Ones.’The Secret
still tops the charts in MBS, and I can
Clear Your Clutter
with Feng Shui
by Karen Kingston
has to be one of my favourite things to do,
and it’s all because of Karen.I have
always been a bit of a hoarder, clinging to keepsakes because of a misplaced
loyalty. It was when I read this book that I understood how much harm I was
doing to my life by holding onto the past.The masses of ‘stuff’ that occupied my home where stagnating my energy, and this was contributing to my
feelings of being overwhelmed and out of control.Once I started working through the exercises
Karen suggests, I began to notice huge shifts in how I felt, what I was doing
and what I was attracting into my life.
I Changed My Life in a Year by Shelley Wilson (me!)
I’ve snuck my book in at the end!I didn’t do this as a sales pitch but as an
honest account of what it meant to produce this book.Starting my blog and embarking on the twelve
challenges I set myself, was only possible because of the strength and
motivation I took from each of the books I’ve listed.There have been many more self-help books
that taught me valuable lessons, but for fear of boring my readers I’ve kept
the list short – I will add other titles in another post.I had to re-build my life and start
was the hardest thing I’ve ever done, but it made me who I am today.Writing this book was my way of showing
others how anything is possible if you
believe in yourself.
Last week I spoke about using self-help tools to heal yourself, and in particular the use of motivational and inspirational books.
On occasion you will come across a book that has the potential to change your life. I have a shelf full of self-help books, but there are the odd one or two that I recommend to everyone I know. Why? Because these books changed me at my core and made me think about how I live and what I can do to improve my environment/life/career.
Today I am joined by Peter Jones, author of How To Do Everything And Be Happy - one of the outstanding books that changed my life.
am a great believer in reading the signs around you.Of course,
this may be my inner writer looking for a new story arc, either way we are sent
messages on a regular basis.It’s up to
us to tune in and hear them or carry on regardless.
the start of each year, I prepare a board
for all the exciting things I want to achieve, be, have or work on during the next
twelve months.I’ve done this for years,
and I continue to be astounded at how varied my boards are from year to year.
up who does everything for everyone and leaves themselves until last.Go on, put your hand up, you know who you
run a holistic health practice and offer numerous feel good therapies to my
clients, I also offer them advice on what they can do for themselves in-between
sessions.So you would think I was able
to take my words literally – apparently not.
my day-to-day work/life balance I momentarily forgot the fundamental goal; make
time for me.
lack of self-care has manifested into a physical ailment.I am kicking myself for not taking care of my
health sooner.However, feeling very
much like I’ve just closed the stable after the horse has bolted, I am taking
time out for some self-help.
you have a lucky pair of pants, carry a charm with you at all times to inspire good
fortune, or consult the astrological gurus before you set foot outside your
believe that we can make our luck, and I am also a huge advocate for the
affirmation ‘thoughts become things, pick good ones’.However, lately I have started to question if
there may be a higher force at work.
the past couple of weeks, I have seen the
number 2222 everywhere.I’ve seen it on receipts when I’ve done my food shopping (in
the code NOT in the price tag – I don’t eat that much!).Every time I glance at my alarm clock or
check the time on my phone it reads 22:22.It happened so often that I decided to
My topic for this week was going to be about living in the
now.However, I can’t stop thinking
about at an exciting future event, or the past event that allowed this future
event to happen – you still with me?To
summarise - I haven’t got a hope in hell of living in the moment, at the
that a bad thing?I don’t think so.When time allows,
I enjoy nothing more than being silent, or absorbing myself in a task such as walking,
drawing, crafts or my writing.Each of
these activities enables me to be in the now, and I feel so much better for it.
today though I am somewhere else!
reason for my abandonment of all things
meditative is, in my opinion, a just and valid cause.
in 2011 I began teaching meditation classes for those of my clients who kept
asking me how to do it.
think they initially believed it was a mystical practice for the spiritually
initiated.Did I have to roll up my one
trouser leg and levitate over the coffee table?Had I attended a secret club hosted by Yoda and the Dalai Lama?The answer, of course, was no…I just sat
still for a couple of minutes and listened to my breathing.No secret club.No initiation.
knew then that I wanted to show people how easy it was to meditate.
you don’t know a chakra from a chorizo, prefer a pair of Jimmy Choo shoes over
walking barefoot on dew-covered grass, and the only labyrinth you’ve heard of
was a 2006 Del Toro film, then you’ve come to the right place.